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1 What Should I Do? on Sat Mar 14, 2009 10:33 pm

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I've been having this problem with a guy. No, he's not my boyfriend. It may be shocking for some people but as old as I am, I never dated anyone. I rejected those that came into my life, but why not? I don't like them in that way so why accept right? But yes, I've been working at this place for about maybe 3-4 months because my friend left to Thailand so they needed a Thai person to replace her. I never worked and I thought "What the hay, why not fill in for her?" So thats what I did. And before I worked at this place I would always go visit my friend and chat for a bit and what not. There is a guy there who manages the place and he is Chinese. Moral of the story is he liked me since day 1 he saw me. Which during that time he was freshly single after being cheated on by his ex. When I started working there he asked me out but I rejected him because I am just there to work and I wanted to focus on my goals rather then date a guy. So, he then later backed away. But we were still friends. He then later liked my friend who was Chinese from Beijing, she is here to study for her Masters. But she didn't like him. But he never asked her out, which I find awkward. Anywho, time went by and my friend quit. She worked at the same place I did. So now he and I became a little more close to each other. He would always have my back and never get mad at me if I make a mistake. Out from no where, I started to develop feelings for him. Till today I still cannot explain why or how I did. He's always protecting me from stupid guys as well. Everyone at work are suspicious of us because we are always together and everyone is just rooting for us to date. But, sad part is he will be leaving by the end of this month to run a franchise of the current business down south of Florida. Where as I live in the north of Florida. Therefore, we won't see each other anymore. I feel so sad because I finally really liked him when it is too late. Now he will be leaving. I don't know what to do or say because he cannot stay. And I told him life goes on. Even though the both of us have great feelings for each other, sometimes things aren't meant to be. And I even told him that I hope he meets his true love and what not. Although deep down I felt like bursting into tears while telling him. Every night I cry because he will be leaving soon. Am I crazy for being like this? What should I do?

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2 Re: What Should I Do? on Sun Mar 15, 2009 4:00 am

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If he really likes you, it wouldn't matter what you said before-- you could've told him you were a lesbian and he'd still be attached.
I think from his behavior that it's pretty apparent he's waiting for you to come around. The reason why he probably didn't ask your friend out was because he liked you more and was only somewhat attracted to your friend.
You should swallow whatever fear you have and just up and tell him. It's not gonna be easy and it's not gonna be graceful, and it sure as hell ain't gonna be painless, but you're gonna be glad you did because it beats sitting there at the end of the month tearing your hair out wondering what would've happened on the day you could've told him your feelings...
And you know what? He probably feels the same about you.

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3 Re: What Should I Do? on Mon Mar 16, 2009 12:27 am

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Umm...Eventually I already have told him how I felt about him and so has he. I knew from the start that he liked me and everyone around me confirmed the same. If I didn't know he liked me then I would've never told him how I felt which even though I wrote it out for him he still knows. And I told him to keep it on the DL but then everyone was already suspicious of us. But he will be leaving so it'll be difficult for him because when he came to the northern side of Florida he was still in a relationship with another girl. Which at the end she cheated on him with his own friend while they were apart. So he is looking at long distance relationship as a bad way to be with someone. Even though he and I and even his ex lives in the same state. Which for me I have no problem at all with long distance but I am a girl and whatever the guy says then thats that. I have no right to tell him what to do with his love life. Thats why the both of us are sad that we won't see each other anymore and he doesn't want to go back home even though his parents and everything is there. I would love for him to stay as well but we both know its impossible.

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4 Re: What Should I Do? on Mon Mar 16, 2009 5:32 am

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Sad

...*hugs*

Feel better.

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5 Re: What Should I Do? on Mon Mar 16, 2009 8:32 am

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Yep, thats the only possible answer that I can come with as well. Make myself feel better. I even told him that I will cherish each and everyday I have left to spend with him. Which the time is clicking, and time is running out. Life is unfair, but then thats "LIFE"

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6 Re: What Should I Do? on Mon Mar 16, 2009 10:02 pm

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(I didnt read any of Andy's responses, so I'm not sure if I'm repeating anything...)


It's never too late to love. If you really like him, and visa versa, then things will work out. Just believe that it can work.

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7 Re: What Should I Do? on Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:54 pm

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I don't work there anymore. I just got fired yesterday. Sad part was, it was he who had to tell me. He isn't the boss of that place anymore, someone else took over and he will be there to see how they run the business until the end of the month then he will leave. Everyone got let go. He didn't want to tell me, but he said today is your last day. He told me when I got off. He wanted to have a chat with me. Unfortunately so many problems happen. One person say they don't want me, but another person still wants to keep me working there. But at the end I chose not to stay because no matter what I will be thrown out of the door later, and on top of that he won't be there anymore. I don't want to stay. Basically, yesterday was my last day with him. And the fact that I wanted to spend every last minute with him. My love life sucks so bad I tell ya.

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8 Re: What Should I Do? on Thu Mar 19, 2009 4:08 am

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Hey Ann, I understand in full how you must be feeling.

However, don't let this tear you apart, or continue to bog you down.

Although it may seem hard to find someone you'll genuinely have interest in, I'm sure if you're willing to be more open to those that approach you in the future -- whilst giving them a chance to present who they are -- then there could be someone else out there that's a better fit for you.. you never know until you give them a chance to express themselves.

Stay up, good things will come most unexpectedly, just like what happend with this guy.

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9 Re: What Should I Do? on Thu Mar 19, 2009 4:11 am

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rachelbabyy wrote:(I didnt read any of Andy's responses, so I'm not sure if I'm repeating anything...)

Gee thanks. ^_^

ANN! Feel better! If you ever need an ear to talk to, I'm here if you wanna chat.

Just click my profile-- everything's there. And if you wanna go stalker-psycho, you can google "GiveMeAndy"-- you'll eventually find my cell phone number too. o_O;;

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10 Re: What Should I Do? on Fri Mar 20, 2009 11:19 pm

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I got called back to work there. Long story! But yea, that means I will see him for another week until he leaves. I'm happy, but then at the same time I'm not. I don't know, I'm just tired with everything right now. But hopefully everything will get better. Thank you guys so much. Andrew, Andy and Rach. Very Happy

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11 Re: What Should I Do? on Sat Mar 21, 2009 3:31 am

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*HUGS*

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12 Re: What Should I Do? on Sat Mar 21, 2009 10:40 pm

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No problem. We're always here to help :]

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13 Re: What Should I Do? on Mon Mar 23, 2009 4:26 pm

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I feel like its over. I give up. I don't want to cry anymore. Its useless. Therefore, I am going to quit my job and try to forget everything about him.

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